If you have siblings, you probably know that it can be a little bit similar to having flatmates. One minute they’re your best friend and the next, they’re driving you mad! But now that you’re flown the nest, you can’t rely on anyone else to step in and amooth over any issues. Here are some of my tips for how to live with your flatmates.
Remember that not everyone has the same personality as you. You’ll probably be living with an introvert, an extrovert, a person with less patience, and many, many more personalities. So you’re going to have to take these into account. Respect people’s personal space, take their needs in consideration and make the effort to be easy to live with.
That one flatmate
Whether you like it or not, you’re probably going to end up having a flatmate who has a trait that will annoy you to no end. Whether it’s never doing their washing up, coming in at all hours of the morning singing or not pitching in with their share of the housework, it will start to wind you up. Remember to choose your battles wisely (don’t be picky about every little thing). Of course, talking to them about it is always the best way to sort it out, but shouting (at any point of the chat) is never going to get you anywhere. Stay calm, and if they don’t listen, stop and try again another time. It could just be that they’re having a bad day.
Make sure you take some time to get to know your flatmates
Staying in your room for the whole of your time at uni is going to be impossible, so you can forget about that idea! You might have already got to know them, and think that it’s all okay. But make sure that you sometimes do things together (after all, you are living together). Try cooking together, playing a game, or even doing a film night every once in a while. Celebrate things together, like a Christmas or each other’s birthdays.
The task that has to be done
Cleaning is never the activity people want to be doing on their Saturday morning. But it’s something that has to be done (which I hope you know already!) To keep on top of it, try cleaning as a group; that way you can make sure that everything is done that needs to be done and that everyone pitches in. Make sure that you’re flexible about the time that you can do it (saying that you’ll still be asleep at 11am isn’t the best excuse!)
Living with flatmates will mean that you have to compromise. But hey, that’s something that you’re going to have to do in everyday life. All in all, you just have to remember that everybody is different, both personally and in their habits. Take the time to get to know your flatmates, you never know, you could end up as lifelong friends!