I may be older than some of you reading this, but I may also be younger, either way I hope you can gain something from this. This is 20 pieces of advice from a newly turned 20-year-old…
- Friends. Friends come and go. Surround yourself with those who truly care about you and get rid of those who take you for granted. You may have less friends, but you’ll find that life is better with the few who care.
- Be kind. People can be rude and horrible, but that doesn’t mean you need to be like them.
- Communicate. Talk to people. A friend, a family member or even a lecturer. Let them know how you feel and ask how they are. You never know what someone is going through.
- Don’t stop learning. Life can be short or long (however you look at it) but don’t stop learning because then you stop living.
- Drink lots of water. Not Coke or tea, water is essential.
- Stop caring what other people think of you. Wear your favourite top again on a night out. Delete social media and tell people you only text rather than snapchat. People are too worried about themselves to be thinking of you.
- Know what you love. Whether it’s the colour green or a particular sandwich. Know what you love.
- Make friends. Friends do come and go, but that shouldn’t stop you making friends. One of the best parts about university is that it’s the easiest way to make friends. Join a society, invite your course mate out for coffee or ask your flatmate if they want a chat.
Join a Society (uosunion.org)
- Treat yourself. Buy that slice of cake. Get a haircut. Wear an especially nice outfit on a casual day.
- Read a book. Seriously, just try reading one. It doesn’t matter that your mate in Year 9 decided that it wasn’t cool to read.
- Make your bed every morning. Even if you jump on top of the freshly made sheets. Get out of bed for a moment and complete that one task for your day.
- Have an inspiration. Someone you look up to. For me, it’s Emma Watson.
- Love yourself before you love others. Relationships are complex and you have to deal with another person’s emotions as if they were a part of you. Make sure you’re in touch with yourself before you try to work on someone else.
- Be proud. Don’t be cocky, but know when to stand up for yourself and what you believe in.
- Have a few hobbies. Stop wasting your life away on your phone. Imagine you could see your whole life as a movie. Would you find that movie interesting or boring?
- Take care of yourself. Don’t forget how important your health is, both mentally and physically. Prevent bringing unnecessary stress in your life.
Stress Awareness | University of Suffolk (uos.ac.uk)
- Look at your surroundings. Do you feel happy where you are? Are your comfortable? You should be. You deserve those good feelings.
- Wear Sunscreen. Just wear it, Baz Luhrmann is right.
- Listen to music. Whatever music you like, it doesn’t matter, just feel free to dance or sing to what you like.
- Finally, the big 20… live your life the way you want it to be. Write about a character with all the traits you wish you have, and work on those steps to becoming that character.